3 April 2014
Can You Be Too Comfortable with your Husband?
The short answer, yes. But before you go ahead and click off of this post you should know that I'm not talking about the kind of comfort that lets silence fall easy and quiet over your morning coffee. Im not talking about comfort that reaches across sheets in the dark. That is a good and beautiful kind of comfort.
Im talking about the comfort that allows snide remarks to go unchecked, unforgiven. The kind that allows you to respond when silence is the better way. The kind that seeks self and not continual, sacrificial unity.
You can be too comfortable. Though we haven't had many years, I have learned this. This is our battle as wives. Against this type of comfort. And as the years wear on I have found it increasingly harder to wage this war.
The truth is that I know I'm safe with my husband. I know that no matter what I say or do, he has pledged himself to me. His love for me is strong and true. But there is a difference between knowing I could say anything without making his love for me waver, and actually saying it.
Friends, lets not allow ourselves to go to that place of comfort. Don't allow the wear of years and days and the monotony of it all to spill over into your words and actions.
Ann Voskamp writes; "The exultation of monotony crowns the brave hearts, eyes that perpetually, perennially, look long to make the familiar new."
This too is the cry of my heart. Making the familiar new. To treat my husband with both a mix of the same awe I had of him on our wedding day, and the comfort of the coffee and the sheets. It isn't what he deserves, we, none of us deserve anything. But it is my offering, my sacrifice, my calling.
Will you join me in the battle to win our husbands affections daily? Again and again without relenting? I can't promise it will be easy, but it is oh so worth it.