It seems like everyone these days is throwing big bday bashes for their wee ones. Its the age of Pintrest and I know a lot of mama's are feeling intimidated by all of the chic and themed parties out there.
So whats a mama to do? Is the "Pintrest Party" becoming the norm?
Hazel's Birthday is on Thursday and lots of people have been asking what I am going to do for it.
It seems like on one hand people want you to throw a big party, but then if you go all out and do a themed party and put a lot of work into it, they are judging you for spending so much time and money on a birthday party for a one year old... ya just can't win!
I decided to ask myself a few questions when thinking about a party for Hazel.
((maybe they will help you too!))
Does thinking about having a big party stress you out?
This might seem like a no brainer, but it was something I needed to ask myself and be honest about. What do we have going on at this time in our lives? Are we realistically able to pull off a big party?
Do you feel it is expected of you to throw a "Pintrest Party"
We all know the pressure we feel as moms, especially for us first timers. Some of us have a "good mom" voice in our heads. And "good moms" do the Pintrest party, with the theme and the smash cake photoshoot.... right??...
More about the "Good Mom" voice here
Friends or Family?
If you do decide to do a party, you'll need to decide whether you will have just Family, or friends at the party. If you have answered yes to the previous two questions, then my suggestion is to invite just family.
To theme or not to theme?
Themes can seem intimidating, but in all honesty it can be helpful to use a theme to focus your ideas. If you go with a theme, my suggestion is to incorporate it in more subtle ways, and to have a theme as a general idea. You do not need to go cutting up Elmo, Dora, or Lightening McQueen confetti, or making cookies with your baby's face on them... yeah its a thing.
What is important to you?
Ask yourself, whats important? Is the cake important? Are pictures important? Is looking back over the past year important? Then spend your time making a memory book or printing pictures to be displayed. Spend your time on the cake if that is what is important to you. Is it important to you to have a big party to celebrate your little one, or will a more low key gathering be just as sweet?
Once you have asked yourself these, or similar, questions, evaluate your answers and you will get an idea of what type of party will be the best for you and your family. The reality is, its us who puts the pressure on ourselves to pull off the ultimate party, and to look amazing while doing it. Maybe there are those amazing moms out there. But if you're not one of them, don't sweat it, you are the perfect mom for your sweet baby!
I had lots of grand ideas for Hazel's party. I would love to be able to throw her a big and beautiful party in our lavish home, with my professional photographer snapping candid shots... just like I see on pintrest. But in reality, I have a very small home and very limited time to pull off something like that... ((Im not going to lie. I even thought about having it at my in-laws solely because their house is nicer... im crazy))
With all that being said. I personally love having people over and I love the planning process. I had to scale my ideas down considerably, and live in the reality of what was actually possible for us, but Im excited about it, and I think it will be super fun!
So what are we doing you ask?
You'll see my little inspiration board I put together above. In the end I decided to go with an outdoor "picnic brunch party". Our house is small, and even though its October, its supposed to be a nice day and I've asked people to come prepared. We have invited our closest friends and their kids ((small family party will be on Hazel's actual birthday)) And I chose to do brunch, because brunch foods are easy to prepare and lends itself well to a buffet picnic style party. Since I have chosen to do it outside that will cut down on many decorations, so I will just be decorating Hazel's highchair, and making a blanket fort ((if time allows)) for the littles to play in.
((Blanket forts are a bit of a birthday tradition in this house and I want to carry on the tradition for Hazel))
I think all of this will be so much more authentically "us", we love being outside, we love brunch, we love our community of friends, and we LOVE our
Now if I can only get through the party without becoming a puddle on the floor crying "Where did my baby go?" I mean... no not me...... I will be perfectly composed and probably look like a million bucks... right Pintrest?
Did you have a first birthday bash for your littles?
Do you like throwing a big party or do you think Pintrest is putting too much pressure on us mamas?