You know it's the talk of the playground, the moms whipser and gossip about "so and so's parenting style". They say "oh, well that baby doesn't sleep through the night, or that baby is still nursing at 2 years old, or that mom stopped nursing at one year ((gasp)) and its probably because of their ((insert here)) parenting style"
Well friends.. I say to heck with parenting 'styles', why does what I'm doing and what you're doing ((which bottom line is raising our sweet babes the best way we can figure out)) have to be defined and analyzed and put in a box with a nice label on it saying its "X" style of parenting?
I was recently invited to a Facebook group for "Natural Parenting" I didn't think much of it until I read in the about section what it was all about. They weren't necessarily saying "we are doing this whole parenting thing better than you" but the way things were worded really made me feel that if I wasn't doing the things they described as "Natural Parenting" that as a result any other parenting style was therefore "Unnatural"
I thought, why do these people get to say what's 'natural' and what is not? What if I'm just doing what comes 'naturally' to me? And what if that's different for me than it is for you? Is that ok? Or am I going to be judged about the disrespect I'm surely showing my child by not following the natural parenting way?
Mamas, why can't we just respect each other? Why can't we encourage and praise rather than admonish and scorn? Why can't we applaud the mother who shares her bed with her child and nurses them through their toddler years, and with those same hands applaud the mother who chooses to walk the forbidden Cry It Out road, who implements routine or schedules.
I'm throwing off the yolk of any certain "parenting style" and creating one that's just my own, because I'm raising my child. I'm the one who will have to deal with my successes and failures as a parent. I will have many of both.
(( I have many friends who chose to parent in all different ways and I dearly love and respect them all; from 'Natural' to 'Babywise', you're doing a great job mama!))
What do you think? Do you have certain parenting style? Do you think it's helpful to categorize these styles?